Yeah. I said it.
I say it and I mean it. We’re all assholes. You know the moment. You say something and the second it comes out of your mouth you wish you could hit control alt delete and restart the system because what kind of IDIOT would say that?
I’ve been there, and will continue to be there.
It’s a matter of when, not if
The fact of the matter is, you’re going to mess up. I’m going to mess up. We are imperfect messy talking apes and we are so far from perfect.
You’re not going to get it right every time, and that is OK.
Today I was talking with a new friend about how I still use the wrong pronouns. . . for myself.
Yeah, I’ll be talking about myself in third person with my daughter and drop the “she bomb” and my wife is the one to call me out on it!
Here’s what matters:
There is a concept called falling forward.
IE you’re going to fall, but it’s HOW you fall that matters.
When you fall forward you maintain forward momentum, instead of landing on your ass. In roller derby we are taught to fall forward onto our knees because the chance of injury for yourself is less, and we’re less likely to injure a teammate.
Um, perfect metaphor, right?
We MUST fall forward. We MUST make things right.
But how, Mason?
There isn’t a cut and dry answer as to recovering from a fall. But the best advice I can give is to learn from your mistake. Learn not only that it IS offensive, but also why. Learn and grow and move on so you can do better next time!
Then do better next time!
Don’t keep making the same mistake over and over again.
If you want to go more in depth, join me on 4/3 at 1 pm CDT for the PridePrep Masterclass!